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May Allah the Almighty bless and reward you for your patience. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam once said “How wonderful is the case of a believer. When he receives a bounty he thanks Allah and this is good for him and when a calamity befalls him, he is patient and that is better for him.” Sister, my advice to you is to seek help and counsel from a pious scholar in your town or a wise member from your family. It will be beneficial for you to note the following before consulting with someone. When is he most likely to drink? Is it with a certain group of friends? Is it a daily habit? Is it his lack of religious knowledge? Does he hide and drink? Does he do it openly? Does he drink in front of you and the kids? Does he become abusive? Is he particular about his daily Salaah? These are just some pertinent questions that you can ponder upon. Your husband should be advised and encouraged to abandon this action for it is displeasing to Allah. Rasul Sallalahu alaihi wa sallam has said that drinking wine is the root of all evils. There are many other Ahadith on the punishments of drinking and studying them with him is beneficial, Insha Allah. If he regrets his actions and seeks counseling to leave this habit then you are advised to help him and encourage him. Additionally, we should not underestimate the power of dua. Allah Ta'ala says in the Quraan in Surah Ghafir "And your Lord said: ' Invoke Me, I will respond to you". Rasul Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has said that Dua is the essence of worship. An extremely valuable time is the time of the night prayer (Tahajjud). Rasul Sallallahu alahi wasallam has said, "Every night there is a special space of time, during which whatever a Muslim asks Allah of, for any good pertaining to this life or the hereafter, it will be granted to him; and this time comes every night." (Muslim) Sister, it is very important to ask of Allah, as it is only Allah who can change hearts. One should pray Salaatul Hajat daily. This can be done at any time. There are many duas in the Quraan and Hadith that you can recite. In surah Alfurqaan verse 73 there is a beautiful dua: "Rabbana Hablana min azwaaajina wa thurriyyaatina qurrata a'ayun. waj alna lil muttaqeena imaamah." 'Our Lord! Bestow on us from our spouses and our children the comfort of our eyes and make us the leaders of Taqwa (piety)’ One of the duas from the Hadith that you can recite is "Allahumma musarriful Qulub Sarrif qulubana 'ala Ta'atik (OAllah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to your obedience.) You can also recite Yaa Hayyu Yaa Qayyum birahmatika nastageeth. There are numerous other duas that you can recite. Sister, May Allah Almighty guide your husband to the straight path and may He grant you the ability to help your husband in the best manner. May Allah reward you for your patience.

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