How to make this marriage successful?

Question

Assalam-walaikum, 1. Both me and my husband are not happy of each other. We both are together for the sake of children, he doesn't respect me and also my family, but still we stay together I have lot of problems in my life, what should I do please help me? 2. Secondly four days back, I did abortion with the force of my husband, it was two months for me, can I continue to read Salah (Namaz) after my periods got over, or should I wait for forty days as in after delivery? 3. In Islam can a women get operated for not conceiving, what is the right method for not conceiving in islam? 4. What is the correct method of reading tahajud salat, which sura has to recited after surah Fateha is it surah Iqlas or any other surah?

Answer

We would advise you to be patient on the difficulties you are facing and turn to Allah SWT in prayer, since He is the one who has all the power to make things better. 1. Marriage is an institute which can be as firm as a rock or weak as a thread, it is up to the partners to make it either one. As a scholar has rightly mentioned, "if every human on earth made the effort to fulfill the rights of others, then everyones rights would have been fulfilled." Make an extra effort to improve your character and fulfill your husbands rights with humilty, and Allah SWT will elevate you in your husband's (and everyone) eyes, as the prophet SAW has said," the one who lowers himself for the pleasure of Allah, Allah elevates him. "If there are particular things that he likes, make extra effort in doing it before he asks. Also dont think about his bad qualities, instead concentrate on the good he has, even if its less in comparison. Remember that Allah SWT has chosen you both to be husband and wife out of his wisdom. We have to learn to be tolerant of each other for the pleasure of Allah. Insha-Allah when he sees your effort and good character, he will feel like doing the same. 2. Once the baby leaves its mother's womb, the maximum days of bleeding are forty. One should take a bath once the discharge turns white/clear and bleeding stops. This could be less than forty days. 3.The use of contraceptive is permissable, as is clear in the hadith that "Azl" is permitted. Permanent contraception like operation on the womb or removal of it is not permissible unless their is a valid medical reason for it. 4. There is no specific method of performing tahajjud salaah. You may recite any soorah after soorah Faatiha, great virtues are mentioned for the one who reads this salaah habitually. May Allah swt make your tasks easy for you, Aamin

And Allah knows best.

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