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Question

My husband has cheated on me twice. The first time I forgave him for our kids sake, but he did it again, this time I cannot forgive..I have lost all love for him. Im still living with him because my kids love him as a father. Islamically am I doing the right thing, living in a marriage ONLY for the kids sake? I dont want them to suffer because of a messy divorce. So i am sacrificing..

Answer

May Allah bless you and your family to live in peace and harmony, Ameen.
http://islameasy.org/Dua_MM_2.php

This life is a one-time opportunity to achieve everlasting happiness in the life hereafter. Allah Almighty is showering countless blessings upon us everyday. Every moment has a great potential to achieve high-ranks in
the court of our Creator. Every minute is like a gold coin. The heart and tongue are gifts from Allah to earn millions of rewards (Hasanaat) for the Akhirah.

It is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytan. This is a temporary life wher desries and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and desires is Jannah. This life is all about responsibilities, fulfilling others rights
and following the commands of Allah and Sunnah.

Marriage is an institute which can be as firm as a rock or weak as a thread, it is up to the partners to make it either one. Due to the influence of Shaytaan, bad desires and environment outside and inside the home, sometimes a married man starts making an affair with a non-Mahram
woman and may lose interest in his own wife at home. This article discusses some causes of this problem and a few suggestions for the wife to re-gain her husband's love.
At the time of concern and tension in domestic affairs, review your life pattern to see in how many ways you can improve yourselves.

Suggestions for Happy Marraige
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Kindly review our advice on Happy Marriage ' Living with Peace and Harmony
at Home at http://islameasy.org/Marriage_Advice.php

Also, you may read 2 Rakah of Nafl Salah, with intention of Salatul Hajat. This is performed like any other Salaah. After the Salaah, you should recite the following Dua. You may print these pages from web and recite fromprinted pages or from computer after the Salaah. It is not required to
memorize these Dua or read it inside Salaah.

Salat-ul Hajat:
The method is described at http://islameasy.org/Dua_Hajat.php

Please note that whether you love him or not, if you want to make Allah happy, you need to keep your husband happy. Masha Allah, by not asking for divorce, you definitely made the right decision. Now think about yourself, when you already decided to live with him why not live a happy
life. Forget what he did, I know it is hard but keep your eyes on the prize i.e. Jannatul Firdaus insha Allah.

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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