Husband cheating wife

Question

My friend’s husband cheated on her over 6 months by chatting to other women over the internet and texting - also sending pictures and receiving them. She recently found out and confronted him. He asked for forgiveness and that it was a mistake and it meant nothing. Please advise on what she should do?

Answer

May Allah bless you and your family to live in peace and harmony! Marriage is an institute which can be as firm as a rock or weak as a thread, it is up to the partners to make it either one. We have to learn to be tolerant of each other for the pleasure of Allah “Do not go by the book of ‘My Rights’. Go by the book of Love, Ihsaan and khidmat. In other words, if every person goes out of his or her way to fulfill the rights of others, instead of demanding his or her own rights, or goes a step further than just fulfillment of rights, i.e. he or she goes out of his or her way to be kind, caring, loving and forgiving, then automatically this world will become a paradise. The unfortunate part is that the husband opens the chapter of his rights and the wife opens the chapter of her rights. The parents open the chapter of their rights, and the children, of their rights. The teacher, his rights and the pupils, their rights, and then everyone demands fulfillment of these rights. No doubt, rights have been declared so that no person should stop short of their fulfillment, but you cannot have a peaceful society if there is just demand for rights and no fulfillment of corresponding obligations.” (Hedyatus Saalikeen, selected quotes by Shaykh Yunus Patel, 1998, South Africa) The best solution to your problem is for you to take away all chances of your husband to be alone and to look at other women. Keep your husband close-knit to you, show him that you care for him, love him, dress up for him, and need him. Invite him before he invites you, try to please him in any way that you can. Take a look at his rights that you may have neglected or haven't paid much attention to and try to improve on those levels and InshAllah Allah will help him keep his eyes on you and not on anyone else. May Allah SWT will make it easy for you. Ameen! Kindly review some of the advices on “Happy Marriage – Living with Peace and Harmony at Home” at our main page http://islameasy.org/Marriage_Advice.php

And Allah knows best.

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