Husband does not give time to family

Question

I am mother of seven children, I don't know what I should do my husband doesn't care at all for our children, he spends his whole day with friends and I can not go out because he starts to fight with me .. please help!!

Answer

May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong Imaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, and bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity. Ameen!

Every tear of a believer is precious. Allah loves us more than seventy mothers do. Allah looks at the sincerity of our hearts and our actions.

You are an obedient daughter, a caring sister and a Muslimah who has already given big sacrifices in your life, you may want to handle this situation with patience. When the family is not so religious (pious or Allah fearing), you may work on them to make them pious - via good
teachings and good manners.

please study this article:
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Winning the Husband ' Saving a Marriage!
http://www.islameasy.org/SaveMarriage.php

Forgiveness and Winning the Heart:
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Remember the teaching of the Islam to win the heart:

' Repel evil with good deeds;

' Join relations with the one who cuts it with you;

' Make Salaam to one who does not make Salaam;

' Forgive those who did bad to you;

' Keep politeness in all talk, with respect and love;

Allah says in the Noble Qur'an:

'The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as
though he was a close friend.' [41:34].

'But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character).'[41:35].

The Prophets made so much effort so that each everyone realizes the purpose of life, gets an opportunity to make Taubah. The pious believers in the Ummah also made an effort so that their families and neighbors can
discover the sweetness of Islam. In this effort, a believer is steadfast,forgiving, patient, trustworthy, kind and caring.

This life is a one-time opportunity to achieve everlasting happiness in the life hereafter. Allah Almighty is showering countless blessings upon us everyday. Every moment has a great potential to achieve high-ranks in
the court of our Creator. Every minute is like a gold coin. The heart and tongue are gifts from Allah to earn millions of rewards (Hasanaat) for the Akhirah.

People cannot give respect or honor -- only Allah can grant peace, love, contentment of heart, a blessed life in this world and in Jannah for true believers. Difficulties and trials can become a means of raising our status and earn countless reward. You should make all your worries, doubts
and concerns in the form of Dua to Allah - example:

Yah Allah I was astray from straight path for so many years, but You have hid my faults and gave me hidayah!

Ya Allah I tried to do good but Shaytan deceived me - only You can show me the path to Jannah!

Ya Allah I am helpless and distressed and You have all the treasures of comfort, mercy and happiness.

This life is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytaan. This is a temporary life where desires and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and
desires is Jannah. This life is all about responsibilities, fulfilling others rights and following the commands of Allah and Sunnah.

Daily reading a book of good deeds with your husband helps in this situation. You may print a chapter of Muntakhab Ahadith

http://www.islameasy.org/quick_books.php

and read with your husband for 10 minutes together, then make Dua.

http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Emaan.pdf
http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Belief_Hereafter.pdf

May Allah forgive the Ummah and guide us to the right path!

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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