Taubah from pre-marriage relation

Question

This question is on behalf of one of my sisters. She asked if someone had a pre-marriage love, but now when she realizes her mistake, then, did she commit a sin which is unforgivable or if she does proper Taubah then Allah might forgive her?

Answer

You can help your sister by telling her that, it is the nature of mankind to be forgetful and to commit sins. However, Allah has given us the ability to correct our mistakes and make amends, we turn to Allah and beg for his forgiveness.

One should make sincere Tawbah/ repentance to Allah for one's sins. The requisites of Taubah are three:

(1) To immediately abstain from the sin.

(2) To regret and wish one had never indulged in the sin.

(3) To make a determined intention not to return to the sin. (Ruhul ma"ani Vol28 Pg235)

It is good to remember one's sins as this will keep us humble in front of Allah. We would advise her to firstly, seek the company of the pious, maybe a sister scholar (Alimah) in your locality, or friends who are concerned with their deen.

After having made a sincere Tawbah, you should have a firm conviction in the acceptance of your Tawbah. Allah (Subhanahu WaTaala) is all-Merciful and all-Forgiving. He is always ready to accept the repentance of His sinful slaves.

After repenting, you should try to live your life in absolute accordance with the Shariah and Sunnah of the Prophet (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa-Sallam). This will bring the utmost peace and tranquility into your life. It is a blessing from Allah (Subhanahu WaTaala) that He made you realize the mistake. From this point on, you should make a firm decision and live your life only in the way that pleases Allah (Subhanahu WaTaala) and we pray that Allah makes this easy for you. Ameen!

Secondly, the remembrance of Allah washes away the rust that gathers on the heart because of sins. If not cleansed regularly, the heart will not guide her to do good deeds.

Lastly, the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam advised his companions by saying "abstain from sins and you will be from the most pious of men." One should keep on striving and be hopeful of the mercy of Allah.

May Allah grant us all the ability to abstain from sins and become practicing Muslims, Aameen!

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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