May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong Imaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, and bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity. Ameen!
You may seek help of Allah through Salaatul Haajah. Please check on the main page for the method of performing it.
Remember the teaching of the Islam to win the heart:
' Repel evil with good deeds;
' Join relations with the one who cuts it with you;
' Make Salaam to one who does not make Salaam;
' Forgive those who did bad to you;
' Keep politeness in all talk, with respect and love;
Allah says in the Noble Qur'an:
'The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the
faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! He, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.' [41:34].
'But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character).
This life is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytan. This is a temporary life wher desries and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and
desires is Jannah. This life is all about responsibilities, fulfilling others rights and following the commands of Allah and Sunnah.
Daily reading a book of good deeds helps in this situation. You may print a chapter of Muntakhab Ahadith to your family
(http://www.islameasy.org/quick_books.php) and read with your family for 10 minutes together. then make Dua.
Also kindly review this article:
Cure for depression
This life is a one-time opportunity to achieve everlasting happiness in the life hereafter. Allah Almighty is showering countless blessings upon us every day. Every moment has a great potential to achieve high-ranks in
the court of our Creator. Every minute is like a gold coin. The heart and tongue are gifts from Allah to earn millions of rewards (Hasanaat) for the Akhirah.
Let's view and ponder over this chart of good deeds
Every particle of the universe will be left behind, but every deed of a human being will be lifted for the life hereafter! Strong faith and good deeds bring peace and comfort in this life, peace in the grave and gardens
of Paradise in the hereafter. When people forget the purpose of life, many of them terminate their lives without hope. When the human being realizes the purpose of life, an ordinary person can become a means of spreading guidance to hundreds of thousands of people. There are diamonds,
gold,silver and pearls to be discovered inside human heart.
Paradise is a reality ' with rivers of milk and honey, palaces of gold and silver, delicious food and fruits, beautiful spouse, always happy, always young, always healthy ' a great kingdom forever and ever for an unending
enjoyment and bliss. Compete with each other to strengthen faith and excel in good deeds and hasten to seize every fleeting moment and turn into gold by a productive activity; sow seeds today to reap a rich harvest tomorrow
and rush at the available opportunity before it is lost for good.
Only Allah knows what is beneficial for us. He is All Wise, All Merciful. Allah loves us more than seventy mothers do. Difficulties and trials can become a means of raising our status and earn countless reward. Allah says in the Qur'an: (interpretation of the meaning):
'..Truly the steadfast will be paid their recompense without
Abu Saeed Al-Khudri and Abu Hurairah (RA) narrate that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Whenever a Muslim faces fatigue, illness, worry, grief, hurt and sorrow, even gets pricked by a thorn, Allah in lieu of his sufferings removes his sins.' (Bukhari)
"Our anxieties, depression and worries are all created because we first make the decisions and then expect Allah Ta'ala to conform; whereas what we plan and decide is subject to Allah Ta'ala's confirmation." ['Cure for
depression' by Shaykh Yunus Patel]
Islam is a complete way of life and offers a real solution to every problem. Here are some steps one may take to cure depression and laziness,insha Allah.
Love of Allah:
The human heart is the center of emotions and feelings. It dictates what it desires and works in collaboration with mind to act as a platform of good or evil. The human heart also has hidden treasures of matchless jewels. If found and applied, we can become beloved of Allah. Imagine a
believer (sister) who always remembers and seeks help from her Creator, praises Allah by her tongue, in her heart, expresses gratitude for His bounties, is patient in hardships. She supplicates in all earnestness and
always has good intentions.
Our real love should be for Allah. We love someone du
And Allah knows best.
Ask Alimah Team
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