When husband does not love his wife

Question

My husband told me that "he did not love me; never loved me". If he does not love me why does he want to have the husband-wife-relations with me? I have lost feeling for him. Should I leave or divorce him?

Answer

Marriage is a great Sunnah whilst divorce is disliked by Allah. Rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has said that if a woman asks for a divorce for no reason, then the smell of paradise is forbidden for her [Tirmidhi]. It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to give 100% effort to make their marriage successful and their home peaceful and Islamic. Divorce is permissible only as a last resort. Ask yourself the reason of your husband's mistrust. Is this his personality? If so, resort to patience, Salaah and Du'a. In most cases, this is because of his lack of confidence, therefore always reassure him of your love for him. If your husband does not trust you because of a previous error, then seek to regain his love and confidence by displaying your love for him, regret (on the mistake), and make commitment to the marriage. Be ever cautious of not repeating the same error that had caused the problem. In any case, do not speak to non-mahrams even if they are your relatives and do not leave the home without his permission. Do not visit places he dislikes etc. Insha Allah, with patience, Du'a and effort your husband will come to trust you. Serving your husband is an ibadah. Abu Hurairah narrated that the Rasul sallahu alaihi wasallam said, "If a women prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadhaan, guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, "Enter paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish" May Allah Ta'ala help and guide us in our decisions and actions. Ameen!

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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