When previous wife is around

Question

My husband was married before and the marriage didn't last due to the ex wife, as she saw my husband as her brother in Islam also they are first cousins. I feel my husband has not moved on from his past and when his ex wife is around he'll watch her and also be interested when her name is mentioned in a passing conversation etc.. I feel uncomfortable when she is around and it's affecting my marriage even though she is happy for us and we both get along as part of formality. Is there a dua for my husband to love me and to forget his past wife please. I feel so emotional sometimes and I tell myself there is no hope in this marriage.

Answer

Marriage is a great Sunnah while divorce is disliked by Allah. Rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has said that if a woman asks for a divorce for no reason, then the smell of paradise is forbidden for her [Tirmidhi].

It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to give 100% effort to make their marriage successful and their home peaceful and Islamic. Divorce is permissible only as a last resort.

Serving your husband is an ibadah. Abu Hurairah narrated that the Rasul sallahu alaihi wasallam said, "If a women prays her five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadhaan, guards her chastity and obeys her husband,it will be said to her, "Enter paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish"

May Allah Ta'ala help and guide us in our decisions and actions. Ameen!

InshaAllah, with your effort and good character, your spouse will feel like doing the same.

You can recite Ayat 21 of Surah Rome [Qur'an 30: 21]

Besides this you should read YA Wadoodo and YA Salaamo 21 times everyday.

May Allah will make it easy for you. Ameen!

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And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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