Question

We have been living with my in laws for 3 years since we are married, and now we have a daughter 16 months old. I wish to move out and start my own family, but my husband is afraid to what his father would say or if his parents would be hurt. He is 30 years old. Should we still live with his parents because his parents don't want him to move? his father is very strict and my husband always afraid of him and does not talk to him unless need be. sometimes he says he is not happy living at home. Also he works for his fathers business for the past 8 years and when and if my husband tries to do something on his own, his father always stops him and does not let him do anything. should my husband still do what he wants to do, look for other means to earn so he can provide for our daughter and me? Should we move out even if his parents are not happy about it?

Answer

We hope that this response reaches you in the best of health and Imaan.Ameen inshaAllah.

Islam teaches respect, sympathy and tolerance. Kind treatment of parents is a quality of the believer. The Quraan and Ahaadith are replete with rders and advices of being obedient to one's parents.

Allah states, "And worship Allah and do not ascribe any partner to Him and be favorable to parents." (Banu Israaeel).

Despite your father in law having enough property and a well balance, helping and giving to one's parents will only increase the barakah in your life and sustenance. As long as you can afford to give financial aid to your father and still provide for your family, you should try your best
and give what you can to your father in law. InshaAllah, Allah Ta'ala will reward you for your kindness and obedience to your father in law and will only increase you in your status in this world and the hereafter.

 

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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