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May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong Imaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, and bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity. Ameen!

Committing sins may make one sorrowful, depressed and deeply disappointed. But if she returns to Allah with a few tears and beseech Him for mercy, He will certainly forgive her. There is no other door to knock to solve our issues.

Please study this whole article on Taubah:
Seeking Forgiveness (Tau'bah)

http://islameasy.org/Taubah_Benefits.php

Make all your worries, doubts and concerns in the form of Dua to Allah ' for example:

Yah Allah, I was astray from straight path for so long, but you have hid my faults and gave me hidayat.

Ya Allah, I tried to do good, but Shaytaan deceived me - only You can show me the path to Jannah!

Ya Allah, I am helpless and distressed and you have all the treasures of comfort, mercy and happiness.

The best thing we can do is to become pious friends of Allah. 'Religious' does not mean who prays and fast only - the definition is 'who abstains from all sins' - this includes our daily life, food, earning and spending,
dress, full hijab (niqab for woman), manners and purification of heart - read the article and Khutbah on our site and listen to lectures .. inshaAllah your knowledge will increase.

This life is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytaan. This is a temporary life where desires and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and
desires is Jannah. Paradise is a reality ' with rivers of milk and honey, palaces of gold and silver, delicious food and fruits, beautiful companions, always happy, always young, always healthy ' a great kingdom for ever and ever for an unending enjoyment and bliss.

Protect yourself and family from the traps of Shaytaan, Nafs and bad environment, which excites a person to:

--Eat whatever you like, making it difficult to avoid Haram and doubtful things;

--Dress as you like, making it difficult to observe Hijab, piety, protection of eyes for this person and others on the street.

--Meet and mix with whomever you like, forgot about good and bad, Mahram and non-Mahram.

Shaytaan has promised to attack from all 4-directions ' front, back, left and right!

Living in this environment is like walking on shells ' like passing through a jungle filled with thorny bushes on both sides, hidden holes on the ground ' a believer with Taqwa would walk by protecting herself from all sides, every step with fear of Allah!.

In this universe, there are both Khair (good) and Sharr (bad) ' To bring Khair, to maintain Taqwa and be steadfast, a lot of continuous effort is needed. Sharr or bad things come automatically, without effort!

The trial and fitan in the market and streets are an opportunity to practice Taqwa, to get closer to Allah, to go high and high in Paradise ' HellFire is surrounded by things appear attractive to Nafs (Shahawaat) and Jannah is surrounded by things which are hard on Nafs. Both ways are open and every day is a test.

The best thing for a believer is to make Taubah from all sins, big or small -- make a list of all mistakes in your past life, pray 2 rakat (Salah of Taubah) and ask Allah to forgive you. Then, try to make up for any missing Salah, any missing fasting, any missing Zakah/Hajj etc. Also,
ask forgiveness from other people if any injustice or verbal abuse as made.

There are other obvious sins in our society - encourage everyone in our homes and community to make Taubah --- for example, not keeping the Sunnah beard (for men), not observing proper Hijab (Niqab for women), watching movies and pictures, music, mixing with non-Mahram , hanging pictures of living beings in home. These and many other activities are a waste of time/resources, makes a person unmindful of Akhirah (Hereafter) and lose the opportunity of earning millions of good deeds via Dawah, learning and teaching, Zikr, Tilawat of Quran, Durood, Isteghfar and Dua.

Study, talk and think about the greatness of Allah, blessings of Allah, Love of Allah, blessings in Jannah for righteous believers to enjoy, everlasting life in Akhirah.

Daily reading a book of good deeds helps keep your motivation. You may print a chapter of Muntakhab Ahadith

http://www.islameasy.org/quick_books.php

and read for 10 minutes. then make Dua.

http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Emaan.pdf
http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Belief_Hereafter.pdf

Daily Dua:
http://islameasy.org/Dua_MM_2.php

To keep good motivation, you may listen to some lecture and read articles on our site.

Purpose of Life (article)
http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Purpose_of_Life_flyer.pdf

Purpose of Life (lecture)
http://islameasy.org/bayan/Taleem/PurposeOfLife.mp3

Cure for depression
http://islameasy.org/Cure_Depression.php

How should Every Muslim live through day and night?
http://www.islameasy.org/MuslimDailyLife.php

Prayer and Du'a - Strong connection with Allah
http://islameasy.org/index.php

May Allah make it easy for you Ameen.

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