Question

a. [Regarding a love marriage], as I insisted my parents spoke to his mother on phone and that ended in a heated discussion. b. i have a problem regarding having a nikah with a man who is pious and i want to marry but my parents don't accept it because he doesn't have a job. we are both young but we are ready for this and were both practicing Muslims. I told my parents and i have been threatened by them. . And they are choosing another man with a degree, when i only want a pious man and they know i don't want that, but they are gonna make me marry their choice, despite knowing force isnt right. But the man i want to marry has a job now and its stil difficult for me to marry him and i have done istikhara and i have a positive sign of the man i want to marry. I am confused in how to marry this man as my parents are not pleased with me doing istikhara. does this mean i can't marry him because of my parents, but if i do, I am rejecting Allah. So, sister advise me in this situation

Answer

We suggest you to pray Salaatul Hajat, which Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) told the Companions to perform when they are faced with a need.
One should perform ablution in the Sunnah manner and then offer two rakaat of salaah with complete devotion. After this, one should praise Allah with the recitation of His most glorious names, then recite Durood Sharief, and then recite the following dua:

La ilaha illalLahul-Haleemul-kareem. Subhana Allahi rabi el-`arshil `azeem.
Al-Hamdulilahi rabbi il-`Alameen. As'aluka mujibati rahmatika, wa `aza'ima maghfiratika, wal-`ismata min kuli dhanb, wal ghaneemata min kuli birr,
was-salamata min kuli ithm. La tada` li dhanban illa ghafartahu,wala hamman illa farajtahu, wala hajatan hiya laka ridan illa qadaytaha ya arhama ar-rahimeen.

http://www.islameasy.org/Dua_Hajat.php

(There is no god but Allah, the Ever-Clement, the Most Generous. I celebrate the Glory of Allah, the Lord of the Magnificent Throne. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. I beseech You, seeking that which will draw me closer to Your mercy, and that which will make certain for me Your Forgiveness. O Allah, grant me protection against any sin, and a share of every virtue. Do not leave me a sin without forgiving it, a worry without relieving me of it, or a need that meets with Your pleasure without providing for it, O Most Merciful Lord.)

After reciting the above dua, beseech Allah Ta'ala regarding one's needs and desires.

We would advise you not to be hasty in expecting your duas or wishes to be fulfilled. Things happen according to the will of Allah . If a prayer is delayed in being answered, then that is what is best for us at the time. If it is not answered in this world, then it is kept for the Aakhirah, where its rewards will benefit us.

Our hearts will be content with the decree of Allah and we will not fall into depression when we accept that whatever happens, happens because Allah decreed it and Allah decrees what is best for us.

Further, we should follow all the commands of Allah S.W.T, like faraaid (salaah etc) and take precaution in abstaining from the prohibitions of Allah S.W.T and his Prophet S.A.W.

If our life is in accordance to the commands of Allah, surely he will accept our duas and his help will be with us

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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